Here’s What Sexual Harassment Looks Like on Bumble

At Bumble, we’re dedicated to maintaining a safe place for our community so that they can put themselves out there and make new connections. Part of that means keeping sexual harassment off our app. 

What Bumble sees as sexual harassment on our platform is a little stricter than what might generally be considered as such elsewhere, so we’re outlining what isn’t allowed and what may get you kicked off of the app so that you can keep swiping safely and respecfully.

Starting Off a Conversation with Sexual Content 

It’s against Bumble’s guidelines to begin a conversation with sexual jokes, sexual innuendos (including emojis), sexual solicitations, lewd GIFs, or sexual comments (i.e., “you look yummy”). This is because when you say these things without knowing your match at all, it could come across as offensive or make them uncomfortable. It’s also not a respectful way to start any conversation. 

If you’re unsure how to begin a chat with a match, you can try out our Question Game or check out some of our favorite convo starters here

Sending Unwanted and Explicit Sexual Advances 

At any point in a conversation with a match, it’s not acceptable to send unsolicited sexually explicit messages. This can include unwanted sexual questions, comments, or jokes; requests for nudes; questions about someone’s sexual history; and unwelcome sexual comments about someone’s body, clothing, or appearance. 

We understand that it can sometimes be hard to know if or when it’s appropriate to make a conversation sexual, so a good rule of thumb is never to assume that a match will want to engage with you in that manner. And even if you’ve had a fun, consensual, sexually-charged chat with a match in the past, you can’t assume that they’ll still be open to that kind of conversation that next month (or even week!). A lot can happen during that time. 

If it’s important to you to take the connection to a sexual place, either wait until you know a match well enough to know that they would be receptive to a sexual comment, or respectfully ask if they’d be open to making the conversation sexual. (Also, be mindful of your timing when you bring this up—if someone tells you that they had a terrible day at work or their dog just died, it’s not the time to do so!)

Sending Unsolicited Lewd Photos 

If a match doesn’t ask for them, messaging someone on Bumble with suggestive photos of your body is not allowed. It’s unlikely you know your match well just yet, and you can’t—and shouldn’t—assume that they’d be open to sexually suggestive photos. 

Furthermore, sending a match unsolicited, lewd images of genitalia (clothed or not) on or off of our app will automatically get you banned from Bumble. This is because sending unwanted photos like this to a match can be a serious violation of their boundaries—and in some places, it’s against the law

Trying to Have Virtual Sex Without Consent 

While we know that sex can be an important and fun part of any relationship, it’s against our policy for Bumble users to try and have digital sex with a match without consent. Enthusiastic consent is a necessary and vital part of any sexual encounter, including virtual ones. 

Remember: Behind every profile is an actual person, and they might not be looking for the same dating experience that you are, which is something that you have to be aware and respectful of to be part of the Bumble community. 

If you don’t follow these guidelines, you’ll run the risk of receiving a warning from Bumble’s support team or being kicked off of the platform entirely. Please swipe, match, and message with respect and consent in mind.