Safety First: 7 Steps to a Worry-Free First Date

We recognize the importance of empowered dating, which is why it’s no surprise that according to a recent survey of dating-app users, women say they feel safest using Bumble in comparison to all other dating apps they use. Survey respondents also revealed that Bumble has the most respectful users compared to other dating apps.

“Our goal at Bumble since day one was to create a place where female users felt safe and in control of the connection, and since that time we’ve invested heavily in features designed to reinforce that mission,” said Alexandra Williamson, Bumble’s Chief Brand Officer.

Other findings from the dating app survey* include that 80 percent of women say Bumble users are the most respectful out of all the apps they use. Hinge also ranked highly for respectful users. Seventy-five percent of women believe that the people they connect with on Tinder are the least respectful out of all the apps they use.

“When women have control to drive the dialogue, they feel empowered and more comfortable in the dating process. They are more in control in a direction that makes them feel confident and safe – and by setting the tone for the conversation they potentially are able to get to know their match even better,” added Williamson.

Users reported that they were 9 times more likely to feel safer meeting someone for the first time on Bumble compared to other dating apps surveyed. Seventy-seven percent of women also say they feel safest using Bumble when meeting someone for the first time.

To help you carry that security into the real world and create a safer dating-app experience, Williamson has curated a list of seven helpful safety tips for meeting someone IRL for the first time.

1. Meet in a public place. Always!

2. Tell somebody close to you where you’re going. Let them know when and where, and that you’ll contact them within a certain amount of time.

3. Do your due diligence. Ask for their last name, look them up, do your homework (but don’t find out everything about them!). Also ask them to get verified using our photo verification feature.

4. Don’t give out private information about yourself. It’s smart to keep a few details to yourself on a first meeting. Don’t share things like your home or office address right off the bat.

5. Take the time for a pre-screen. Offer to have a FaceTime or phone call date prior to the IRL date. If they hesitate, it’s a good sign that it may not be right for you.

6. Always feel free to politely leave the date. In every social situation, you should always be kind and compassionate. If you don’t feel comfortable, it’s always important for you to put yourself first.

7. Enlist the help of a bartender or a waiter. Watch your surroundings and find an advocate nearby. Have the waiter help get you out of the situation by saying you have an urgent call. If it’s something more serious, you can always have someone call the police or help you get a ride home.

*The survey was conducted in the U.S. during March and April 2018 and was distributed to 4,547 dating app users. Dating apps survey respondents used included Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, eHarmony, Grindr, Her, Hinge, Jack’d, JSwipe, Match, OkCupid, Raya, Scruff, The League and Tinder.