An Open Letter to Connor

Dear Connor,

It has been brought to our attention that you lost your cool on one of our female users, Ashley. She made small talk; you felt personally attacked. She mentioned her work day and asked about yours; you assumed she was prying into your financial status.

Given we’re all working women ourselves, we’re going to venture a guess into Ashley’s intentions here. Take a seat, Connor, because this concept may blow your mind: Women nowadays work. It’s happened gradually, we know, but the majority of women from our generation have jobs.

With that in mind – and knowing that Ashley simply mentioned work in the conversation – we can infer that she wasn’t hoping to figure out if your wallet was sizable enough for her to move into your house and start cooking dinner for you. Instead, Ashley was (wait for it, Connor, because this is where things really get interesting), viewing herself as your equal. It might sound crazy, but people connect over the basic routines of life. You know, things like the weather, working out, grabbing a drink, eating, and working.

While you may view this as a “neo-liberal, Beyonce, feminist-cancer” and rant about the personal wounds you’ve sustained from “entitled gold digging whores,” we’re going to keep working. We’re going to expand our reach and make sure women everywhere receive the message that they’re just as empowered in their personal lives as they are in the workplace. We’re going to continue to build a world that makes small-minded, misogynist boys like you outdated.

We’re hoping one day you come around. We hope the hate and resentment welling up inside of you will subside and you’ll be able to engage in everyday conversations with women without being afraid of their power to the extent you feel the need to lash out at them. But until that day comes, Connor, consider yourself blocked from Bumble.

Never yours,

The Bumble Hive

#ImWithAshley

#LaterConnor

The Messages

NOTE: Bumble was alerted to abuse and sent screenshots of said abuse by one of our users. Bumble did not violate user privacy and has taken blocking steps in congruence with Bumble Terms of Service.