You know that slight flush and those positive vibrations you feel when the “You Matched!” screen appears when you’re Bumbling? Whether you’ve been using Bumble for a couple years or a couple of days, that sensation never really goes away. And while the match is the critical first step to possibly making a meaningful connection, it’s what comes next — your ice-breaking introduction line — that can make all the difference.
To help you out, we’ve prepared some first-message guidelines based on your dating personality type below. (Not sure what your dating persona is? Take the quiz here!)
Empathetic
Kindness comes naturally to you–not only do you consider other people’s feelings, but you prioritize them. To showcase this, try opening with a cute compliment, or asking a question that allows your match to open up.
Love your taste in music. What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?
Ooh super cool pics. Are you into photography?
Hi! How are you *really* doing right now?
Confident
Your success derives from asking for what you want and not wasting anyone’s time (we love a trailblazer). Stick to these roots by telling your match what it is about them that caught your eye.
Your dog is so cute! Hopefully he’ll make an appearance on our first date? 😉
Lol your bio had me on the floor. Wanna link up sometime and tell each other dad jokes?
Not gonna lie– you are SO my type. Your smile 😍
Humorous
The best way to win someone’s heart? Make them laugh! Luckily, your wit just so happens to be your greatest strength. Put your best foot forward by keeping things light-hearted, and don’t be afraid to get corny!
Are you my appendix? Because you give me this weird tingly feeling and I kinda want to take you out.
I know we’re all sick of being quarantined, but I’m trying to LOCKDOWN someone like you.
Alright, I’m here. What are your two other wishes?
Intellectual
You’re quite the thinker and love that there’s always more to know about a fellow human. Impress your match by making an astute observation or asking a question that leads to deeper conversation.
Is that a [insert band name] tee you’re wearing in your third pic? Love them!
Wow, you definitely have a way with words. Who’s your favorite author?
Which do you think is more important: time or money?
Adventurous
As a thrill-seeker, you’re determined to make the most out of life, and that means taking risks. Show off your adventurous side by asking a quirky question that’s sure to spark an interesting convo!
What would you do if you were invisible for a day?
Kiss, marry, kill: Salsa, queso, guacamole.
Alright, let’s see what you’ve got. Truth or dare?
No-Frills
Maybe you’ve had luck simply by introducing yourself or asking people what they’re up to. If so, there’s no shame in sticking with what works. You can beef up your first line a bit simply by adding an Emoji or GIF. After all, sometimes a visual cue better expresses what you want to say.
Hey {Name}! What are you up to this weekend?
Hey! How’s your Tuesday going?
I spent 20 minutes trying to think of a curated pickup line, but I didn’t want to keep you waiting any longer, so, hello. 🙂
Need more ideas? To shake up your chats even more, try playing the Question Game, built directly into the Bumble app.
Above all, remember that regardless of how carefully crafted your first message may be, some people still may not respond. Dating takes effort from both parties, and no matter how many tries it takes, you deserve the type of relationship you want!