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People don’t message me first

Not everyone is able to make the first move on Bumble. We’re really proud of this, but we understand it can be frustrating for people waiting for a first message that doesn’t come.

Here are 3 common reasons why your match might not message first, and more importantly, why you shouldn’t take it personally if they don’t.

Life happens

Lots of people are balancing their dating lives with a busy work schedule, making time for friends, hobbies, and other important things.

It could easily be that your match just wasn’t in a good place to start a meaningful chat this time.

They have notifications turned off

It’s common for people to turn off notifications not just from Bumble, but from most apps on their phone. 

So don’t assume your match actively decided not to message you. Maybe they just didn’t see you in time!

Openers are hard

Sending a first message is hard. Some people may not know what to say, others may get anxious. Keep this in mind and stay empathetic when using Bumble.

The best thing you can do is to make your profile pop and try to give your matches plenty of information to start a conversation with.